Say what you may, I don't believe in long distance relationship (LDR).
By not believing, I mean I don't think LDR would work, not without pain and hassle and every effort of the two persons who are in the relationship. I have my reasons for not believing it. First is based from my experience of being away from my partner for almost 4 months that made me lost interest in him and in the relationship that I broke it off without feeling nothing. I guess it wasn't love.
Second, I couldn't bear thinking of the struggles both person have to commit along other things they have to focus on. Unless they are wealthy enough to make phone calls, meet every now and then and even have a wider point of view on the foundation of relationship (open relationship and whatnot), I couldn't see myself fitting in those shoes.
I know they are hardly concrete reasons to point out that LDR cannot work, but what about my observation on the people around me committing to their LDRs? Never that I found even ONE LDR that went well. I am not talking about the fights and the stress and the heartbreaks that even the normal couples went through, that would not suffice to reject such relationship. I am talking about the loyalty of the persons in the LDR. Often I found if not both, one of them is cheating behind the other person's back, usually without the knowledge of that person who is thousand miles away. I couldn't stand seeing that, and I couldn't stand thinking of myself doing that to the person I love. I'm not saying that women would not cheat, but often the cheater in LDR is the men.
So those are my arguments. Wrote this to remind myself that I do not actually want to further my studies overseas, first because I would be TERRIBLY HOMESICK only God knows how, and I don't want to be away from all the persons I love. It's not about making sacrifices to them, no, it is about making my own decision that I do not want to. Unless I could bring all of them together with me, then that is the place I want to be, home.
By not believing, I mean I don't think LDR would work, not without pain and hassle and every effort of the two persons who are in the relationship. I have my reasons for not believing it. First is based from my experience of being away from my partner for almost 4 months that made me lost interest in him and in the relationship that I broke it off without feeling nothing. I guess it wasn't love.
Second, I couldn't bear thinking of the struggles both person have to commit along other things they have to focus on. Unless they are wealthy enough to make phone calls, meet every now and then and even have a wider point of view on the foundation of relationship (open relationship and whatnot), I couldn't see myself fitting in those shoes.
I know they are hardly concrete reasons to point out that LDR cannot work, but what about my observation on the people around me committing to their LDRs? Never that I found even ONE LDR that went well. I am not talking about the fights and the stress and the heartbreaks that even the normal couples went through, that would not suffice to reject such relationship. I am talking about the loyalty of the persons in the LDR. Often I found if not both, one of them is cheating behind the other person's back, usually without the knowledge of that person who is thousand miles away. I couldn't stand seeing that, and I couldn't stand thinking of myself doing that to the person I love. I'm not saying that women would not cheat, but often the cheater in LDR is the men.
So those are my arguments. Wrote this to remind myself that I do not actually want to further my studies overseas, first because I would be TERRIBLY HOMESICK only God knows how, and I don't want to be away from all the persons I love. It's not about making sacrifices to them, no, it is about making my own decision that I do not want to. Unless I could bring all of them together with me, then that is the place I want to be, home.
